Hi friends the other day this week i was having a whatsapp conversation with a friend who was once my college mate around 15 years ago , we haven’t met since then and we connected back through facebook last year . We dont speak much but do drop a hi some time , many who know me from those days a different person i was , we had this conversation about life , spirituality , ego it was random question and exchange of thoughts . I was cooking and typing so didn’t give it much thought but answered spotaneously.To the end of conversation he thought i was very much enlightened or going to be soon .Yes i did put up really good thoughts and answers to his queries. But once the conversation ended it struck me to question am i really enlightened , do i want to be one , do people perceive me so, if they do why do they , Is it that easy to judge people even if you spent a time with them , do time and life change people . Judging people is not that easy even though we think to be a very good judge of people’s thoughts , character or intentions.
This question has been a very important topic for me for the various experiences and past i faced especially around my closed ones , whom i admired once , who make me what i am today yet now i don’t let them be a part of my life with the situation that brought in those sides that i was unaware existed . Judging people is not that easy with human complexities to think , behave , know , profess , execute all differently at different times with different people . Many know or are knowledged at various spheres or domains of life they may have achieved this through practise , training , research , sources direct indirect , exposure or experience. but there is a difference in knowing all and actually implementing it in life .And the real test is not of knowledge but how well can you face the challenges or actually practise that you preach .
The skilled people could have achieved a point or excelled in their arts or fields and have made their mark or mastered a lot about those skills more than any average person , but does that become so prominent that it becomes the only point to judge a person’s character . Sometimes these knowledged and skilled people have an edge over the others to use this to their benefit or coverup for their flaws , some of them achieve fame or status and then there is the other side to it .I am not being critical or judgmental about people with talents or skills or knowledge, nor are all the same , but that alone does not define a person to be a better person we look up to .
Many a times age , relations do become a factor of judging a person’s character . As they say with age comes maturity , worldly knowledge and experience . Relations that form support system or are important positions within families due to various reasons are thought to have more knowledge as they take important decisions , cater to needs , have dependencies . But isn’t that a responsibility one chooses to fulfil without any expectation or return . Age doesn’t mean people haven’t had a past or aren’t still learning , its all about the exposure they might have had through their life , their mindset and relations and challenges . Important relations should be respected for their positions and contributions but the role is one of those responsibility or one side of the many facets a person carries out in life, judging them by their stronger position and ignoring their other relations or areas or attitude towards life, that’s still a part of their life other than the big role . Many a times we tend to ignore the other side or accept these relations for important positions they occupy and give their opinion , to be the final word without analysing or questioning or give them the most important place in our lives .
The point i am trying to make here is the power that we give with judging people in our lives is very important . Because we are quick to judge and that’s how we are trained most of the time , we give them important positions to influence or make decisions in our life . But we should take the best from others and learn what’s best in them , in the process learn that judging people easily and giving our control in their hands is not right . Be wise with your judgment or don’t come to quick and wrong judgments that can impact your decisions , opinions or outlook towards life.Yes how a person treat others , their ability to handle their emotions and inner deep self , the real self when they are among their own , the strength to face ones other side and fight to bring out only best , to stand up for other in times that demand courage and choose between right and wrong, how you handle oppositions to your thoughts and ideas and more in the list that actually is a judge of human qualities worth being respected and looked upon .
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